Thrown Under The Bus Cartman!
I recently wrapped up Tony Hsieh’s Delivering Happiness audiobook. He speaks about positive psychology, do unto others as you would have done onto you, character, and culture. Out of nowhere, my positive mindset received a huge shock to its system. One of my coworkers, Hardy, threw me under the bus. Tony Hsieh would have been beside himself and would never hire Hardy to work at Zappos.
I was wrapping up for the day when one of my IT operators alerted me to a problem. It was a third-party application server which I normally deferred to two other teammates. Unfortunately, none of them were around. Hardy, who I occasionally bond with over smart phones was still at his desk. I told him the situation and he told me that we needed to open a ticket with our third-party vendor. He was very gracious and said if I needed any assistance he would still be around the office for an hour. I passed the information to my operator and he merrily called our third-party vendor.
As I drove home I got a call from my manager. Oh Oh, this can’t be good. He asked, “Did you ask Hardy for help earlier?” “I couldn’t find any other specialists around so I turned to Hardy for help. Is something wrong?” It turns out during a meeting between my manager and director, Hardy barged in and questioned my manager, “Am i supposed to do your team’s job too now?”
What In The World?
I couldn’t believe it. This no good, two-faced, backstabbing, blowhard threw me under the bus! After I composed myself, I learned some valuable lessons.
Breathe, Exhale, and Calm Down
Flying off the handle and cursing like a sailor will not rectify the situation. I tried to calmly discuss the event with my manager and gathered more information.
Not Everyone Thinks Or Acts Like You
Hardy has been under fire from my director for performance issues. He smelled blood when I naïvely asked him for help. It’s either misery loves company or he was trying to take some heat off of himself. Regardless, lesson learned.
Fool Me Once Shame On You, Fool Me Twice Shame On Me
I don’t really deal with Hardy too often, but now I know I need to keep this person at arm’s length. Who needs enemies when you have coworkers like this? I am thankful it was not a more critical disruption.
Even though I felt like Cartman from South Park, after a good night’s sleep I let Hardy slide. What do I hope to accomplish by confronting him? What do I get if I win? To my managers credit, he diffused our director from flying off the handle for my supposed dropping of the ball. I’m being more selective with my battles and this one wasn’t worth it.
What would you do if you were thrown under the bus?