Designing My Perfect Day
I learned about designing your perfect day from Brendon Burchard’s The Charged Life podcast. Basically he feels many people have too few of their perfect days because they don’t have a clear idea what their idea of a perfect day looks like. When you spend some time understanding it, you are one step closer to designing it and having more of them. What a novel concept! I reflected and pieced together my own perfect day.
Burchard continued that in his speaking engagements, many attendees only had a handful of perfect days. I’m embarrassed to say I can’t count the number of my perfect days. However in my reflection, I pinpointed key perfect moments. Following Burchard’s perfect day design concept, after you identify what makes your day perfect, you can proactively craft your days to match your definition as closely as possible.
When I first started creating content years ago, my perfect metric was tied to how many comments or shares I had. I finally realized this need of approval was unhealthy and unproductive. My revised perfect metric is two fold. First if my content helps a reader with a problem like my post on applying for paid family leave that would contribute to my perfect day. Second, if my content helps me personally improve like my 30 day writing challenge or my recent mindset changes at work, these moments would also rank.
On the work front, there are common themes throughout my career. First, if I personally over came an almost impossible technical challenge. At the time, I was uncomfortable, but looking back, I was forced to grow and persevere. Second, one of my favorite memories was playing Quake II with my former team. Although we were a motley crew of nationalities and personalities, we came together for one goal. Defend our flag and attack our opponents’ flag. We were comrades and brothers in arms. We suspended our differences and came together as one. I still remember screaming through the halls as we barked strategies and when we scored. It was beautiful.
I’ve had similar moments on the basketball court or when a technical issue required a mix of expertise working in harmony. We wouldn’t be able to pull through unless everyone left it all out on the floor. Even though we were tired from strings of all nighters, we had each other’s backs as we rescued our companies from technical meltdowns.
Friends and Family
Just this past Thanksgiving I had perfect moments with friends and family. There was quality time combined with great communication and understanding. We also had group activities like gun shooting, karaoke singing, and scotch tasting which combined male bonding with letting off steam.
The perfect moments with my wife are similar to the ones described above. Some of my fondest memories were gallivanting through Europe and Asia. We worked together as a team, rushing from one tour stop to the next. Our different styles and mindsets were cast aside because of one goal. Lately our perfect moments arise from working through our son’s terrible two challenges.
I’ve read intrinsic happiness goals of personal growth, relationships, and helping others trump extrinsic ones like money image and status. It has never been more clear after discovering my perfect moments. To design and have more perfect days I need to continue to grow and learn personally and professionally. The content I create needs to push my limits or add value to others. I need to be grateful and nurture my relationships through authentic communication and respect. This spawns camaraderie combined with heartwarming, selfless teamwork.
Do you know what your perfect day looks like? What are you doing to have more of them?