Thrown Under The Bus Cartman!

I recently wrapped up Tony Hsieh’s Delivering Happiness audiobook. He speaks about positive psychology, do unto others as you would have done onto you, character, and culture. Out of nowhere, my positive mindset received a huge shock to its system.  One of my coworkers, Hardy, threw me under the bus. Tony Hsieh would have been beside himself and would never hire Hardy to work at Zappos.

I was wrapping up for the day when one of my IT operators alerted me to a problem. It was a third-party application server which I normally deferred to two other teammates. Unfortunately, none of them were around.  Hardy, who I occasionally bond with over smart phones was still at his desk. I told him the situation and he told me that we needed to open a ticket with our third-party vendor. He was very gracious and said if I needed any assistance he would still be around the office for an hour. I passed the information to my operator and he merrily called our third-party vendor.

As I drove home I got a call from my manager.  Oh Oh, this can’t be good.  He asked, “Did you ask Hardy for help earlier?”  “I couldn’t find any other specialists around so I turned to Hardy for help. Is something wrong?” It turns out during a meeting between my manager and director, Hardy barged in and questioned  my manager, “Am i supposed to do your team’s job too now?”

What In The World?

I couldn’t believe it. This no good, two-faced, backstabbing, blowhard threw me under the bus! After I composed myself, I learned some valuable lessons.

Breathe, Exhale, and Calm Down

Flying off the handle and cursing like a sailor will not rectify the situation.  I tried to calmly discuss the event with my manager and gathered more information.

Not Everyone Thinks Or Acts Like You

Hardy has been under fire from my director for performance issues. He smelled blood when I naïvely asked him for help. It’s either misery loves company or he was trying to take some heat off of himself. Regardless, lesson learned.

Fool Me Once Shame On You, Fool Me Twice Shame On Me

I don’t really deal with Hardy too often, but now I know I need to keep this person at arm’s length. Who needs enemies when you have coworkers like this? I am thankful it was not a more critical disruption.

Final Thoughts

Even though I felt like Cartman from South Park, after a good night’s sleep I let Hardy slide. What do I hope to accomplish by confronting him? What do I get if I win? To my managers credit, he diffused our director from flying off the handle for my supposed dropping of the ball. I’m being more selective with my battles and this one wasn’t worth it.

What would you do if you were thrown under the bus?

Stay Inspired!
Buck

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8 Responses

  1. Moneycone says:

    Well played Buck, well played! Nothing good comes out of confrontations. It is one thing if you have to deal with Hardy everyday, but if this is a one time thing, let it go.

    Forgive not because Hardy deserves forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.

  2. snarkfinance says:

    I believe the dialogue from A Bronx Tale taught me all I needed to know about this project (if I could only remember it 100% of the time):

    Colagero: This guy Louie Dumps over here, you know, he owes me twenty dollars. It’s been two weeks now, and every time he sees me, he keeps dodging me. He’s becoming a real pain in the ass, should I crack him one or what?

    Sonny: What have I been telling you, sometimes hurting someone ain’t the answer. First of all, is he a friend of yours?

    Colagero: No, I don’t even like him.

    Sonny: You don’t even like him. There’s your answer right there. Look at it this way, it cost you twenty dollars to get rid of him. Right? He’s never gonna bother you again. He’s never gonna ask you for money again. He’s out of your life for 20 dollars. You got off cheap. Forget about it.

  3. krantcents says:

    I would ask my boss what I should do if this happens again. Asking a question of Hardy seems reasonable based on your explanation. What did your boss say?

    • Buck Inspire says:

      My manager pointed out if I had reached out to anyone other than Hardy, it would not have come back to get me like it did. Apparently he has a reputation for this kind of thing. Noted and it won’t happen again. Thanks for the feedback KC!

  4. Arlee Bird says:

    Hsieh’s Delivering Happiness is an excellent book. Have you taken the Zappo’s tour in Henderson? If not, next time you’re in Vegas I highly recommend going. They treat you royally and it’s eye-opening. Made me want to work there.

    I guess the threat of being thrown under the bus is why I have a tendency to be a lone ranger. When I’ve been stabbed in the back I assess it by relationship and potential outcome. If it comes from someone I’m not that close to and they appear to have no part in my future, I leave them behind and move on. I don’t like to burn bridges so I don’t do anything that will permanently sever a relationship. I like to play by the Golden Rule and expect the same from others.

    I think you did the right thing.

    Lee
    A Faraway View
    An A to Z Co-host blog

    • Buck Inspire says:

      I haven’t been, but sounds awesome. The next time I am in Vegas I definitely will sign up for the tour. Zappos and Tony Hsieh are doing some amazing work.

      I understand the Lone Ranger mindset. I naturally keep to myself as well. Probably to avoid situations like this. However, we can’t let a few bad apples ruin possible great connections with other people. Great advice and if everyone practiced the Golden Rule, the world would be a much better place!

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