Stop Making Mountains Out of Molehills, Drama Queen!

Years ago I was getting to know a new co-worker. I described myself as a drama queen. She couldn’t believe it, but weeks later as she got to know me, she adamantly agreed, “You are a drama queen!” I’m a pretty emotional guy and sometimes it is easier to express myself through writing. I noticed that I add some flair for dramatics and go over the top to excite my reader. But I recently realized that although this makes for entertaining writing, I was mostly throwing myself into a psychological, downward spiral.

The Good (Career)

When I started my career, one of my first jobs assigned me a company cell phone. I was overjoyed and ecstatic. My friends and family thought I was nuts. “Why is Buck going so nuts over a cell phone?” In my mind, it was the moment I arrived, I was a valued member of the company, and I would be working with computers as a professional, not just as a hobbyist. What looked like a normal, everyday event to most people; to me, I was on Cloud 9.

The Bad (Investing)

We saw how my mind unraveled in Steve Jobs Resigns: Why I Hated Apple. Investing is difficult by itself. But imagine having to navigate through the market with this inner dialogue going on. “You’re losing money again! You sold too early! You suck! You have no business trading! What will your friends think about you? You failed your parents! You are a complete idiot!” It’s a miracle that I could even execute a trade. What was supposed to be a trade that went against me, in reality, it was a mini meltdown that incapacitated me for days.

The Ugly (Blogging)

When I started blogging, I was finally realizing a lifelong dream. I always wanted to write as I felt it was the best way for me to express myself, entertain, and inspire others. But my mindset reared its ugly head in Ramit Sethi and Pat Flynn Almost Killed Buck Inspire. “Look at your meager quantity of commenters, subscribers, monthly visits, and income! Who do you think you are? Stop wasting your time! Why would anyone read or listent to your drivel? Stop embarrassing yourself and give up your stupid dream!” It’s amazing I made it this far when this internal battle was raging within me.

Final Thoughts

I love reading dramatic writing and I love to write over the top as well. However, if you adopt this writing style mindset to deal with life, it could be a double edged sword. Combine this with a lack of self confidence and my mindset turned intensely negative. I’ve heard the phrase “Don’t Make Mountains Out of Molehills” for what seems like forever. But only now do I fully understand what it means and how I can apply it to my life. Ironically, it was a positive combination of the two examples above, career and blogging, that made me break free. Since I’m making great strides in both, my lack of self confidence is finally gone. With this critical piece out of the equation, I now am facing challenges at face value, not making mountains out of molehills, and sending myself into a downward spiral. Hopefully this will mean better results in my career, investing, and blogging.

Do you make mountains out of molehills? How do you deal with life?

Stay Inspired!
Buck

32 thoughts on “Stop Making Mountains Out of Molehills, Drama Queen!”

  1. I get discouraged, frustrated, bored and perhaps jealous just like everyone else. My approach when that happens is to do something about it. It relieves most the feelings. Doing something is a positive action for a negative situation. Even, if you do not have a solution, create a plan is taking action. Good luck.

  2. I have in the past, but I remind myself that everyone goes through those moments. We can spend the rest of our lives questioning our self worth, and consequentially not truly accomplishing anything, or we can keep pressing forward.

    I know that some things I do add more value than others, but as long as you’re adding some sort of value, you’re doing accomplishing something. Each article you post does something whether it lets other people know “I know what you’re going through” or “this is how I think you can get out of your jam”.

    You can think of blogging as offering advice. Some people prefer getting opinions from anonymous strangers rather than let family or friends know they are in a tough place. You’re doing a great job, and I’m glad you have gained self-confidence to know that you can keep moving forward.

    Thanks,
    Timothy

  3. I make mountains out of molehills in my own way. I tend to over analyze the work I do. The results generally end up fantastic, but they also took way too much time to achieve.

    Me and the law of diminishing returns are still trying to learn how to co-exist! LOL.

    Humbly Yours,
    The Mayor

    1. Long time no see Mayor! Hey at least you produce excellent results. In the past, there were many times when analysis paralysis grabbed a hold of me. In the end, I produced nada!

  4. You’re doing fine. Things don’t come overnight and life is sometimes a roller coaster.

    I have a tendency to dream too big and then get let down when things don’t turn out quite as great as I had hoped. I also start getting paranoid when things don’t happen as I expect–maybe a bit dramatic I guess.

    Lee

    1. The curse of being a writer Lee? It’s awesome you dream big. The let down is natural, but you seem to be practicing shoot for the moon and land amongst the stars. Not a bad proposition to me!

  5. Pardon me but I think I felt about your love for dramatization long time back. With a post title buck was killed by pat and Darren, or something similar.

    I am a moment person, I take things on face value. If I fail, its not end of the world for me..

    All the best on your resolutions

    1. Yes you did! Now that I recognize it for what it is, hopefully I can continue being dramatic without the nasty side effects. Great way to deal with setbacks. Sadly, until now, a failure was almost the end of the world to me. Thanks for the well wishes!

  6. I used to by more of a drama queen, but once you get married, only one of you is allowed to be a drama queen while the other person’s job is to calm you down. My wife chose to be the drama queen.

    1. Haha, hello fellow former drama queen! Looks like we have a similar setup. My wife is a bit of a drama queen herself so things get a little nuts when we both go into drama queen mode. I try my best to be the calm one, but old habits die hard.

  7. I suffer many of the same ‘maladies’ you describe Buck. Over the years I have painfully learned that I need to sit on my first reaction to a situation for awhile and let some other viewpoints filter in. Otherwise, I tend to burn bridges that shouldn’t be burned.

    I have also had to learn that I have just as much right to my slice of life (opinions, actions, space and etc) as everyone else in the world., and just as much of a chance to make it big as anyone!

  8. I agree with KC that action is the best remedy when I’m feeling like you described. I’m happy to hear that you’ve made so much progress because it’s often a daunting task to overcome negative self-think. But it’s surely amazing what we can accomplish when we finally slay those dragons, eh?

  9. Keep it up bro… It is so true, blogging is offering advice. I prefer getting opinions from anonymous strangers rather than family or friends. Honesty to stranger I call it. You’re doing a great job, keep moving forward dude.

  10. Buck,

    Only street smart knows how to maneuver through the streets of negative feelings without allowing the precious dream to be killed. :) Great article. I am inspired by your words to write straight from my heart without fear.

  11. I don’t think I’m a drama queen but I know I do over worry about things at times and can stress myself out. I think it’s because I set high expectations for myself so I get frustrated when I don’t do everything I wanted or as well as I wanted. But even one step forward is better than none! -Sydney

  12. Dramatizing in your blogging is far from ugly. I wish I could write a little less balanced and more dramatic. Dynamics in your writing attracts an audience. Don’t lose it. The highest mountain in the Netherlands is a molehill of 300 meters or so. I seek mountains.

    When investing, on the other hand, you definitely do not want to dramatize. Have a plan, stay calm and follow the plan.

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